If 5unfl0wer wants to improve, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. These include his continual need for security, his tendency to escape into fantasy, his hunger for approval, his longing for the past, his fear of the future, and his investment systems.

5unfl0wer sometimes senses a conflict between their desire for social and professional success and their need for a stable, secure domestic life. They are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on them. Sometimes it feels as though they will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy them if they have neglected their most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to them to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if they merely sacrifice their domestic life, they are only trying to fool themselves. They should accept the fact that their domestic life is the true basis and foundation of their development. All their career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

5unfl0wer’s energy is vast and very productive. He knows how to persevere and meet challenges, delays, and obstacles with determination and obstinacy, without altering his goals. He is fairly reluctant to change course as a result of outside intervention, preferring to bulldoze his way past any obstacles, slowly but steadily, rather than go around them. Sometimes his will is so powerful that he refuses to make any compromises or concessions, which may be a source of conflict with others. He might want to work on sharing his power or authority, which would allow him to accomplish more.

5unfl0wer is endowed with sensitivity and profound aspirations, especially romantic ones. Nevertheless, his spirit is sometimes too delicate for him to have armored and structured himself for the constraints of life out there in the real world. Moreover, he sees little point in devoting himself to fulfilling the demands of practical reality, which strike him as rather futile and empty. His escapes into his fantasy world give him the illusion of a much greater reward. He tends to gloss over his vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, he feels guilty for them and suffers from his own vulnerability and illusions. He would do well to try to be more selective about the people he associates with; when he is moving in a dream world, he attracts the kind of dishonest people who are likely to take advantage of him.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.