Aaron Williams Jr. became aware of his weaknesses and decided to work on them. He started by overcoming his perfectionism and focusing on the minutiae. He also became more intellectual and comfortable with a constant state of worry.

Although it sometimes seems easier to me to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if I merely sacrifice my domestic life, I am only trying to fool myself. I should accept the fact that my domestic life is the true basis and foundation of my development. All my career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Aaron Williams Jr., you have significant intellectual potential which may merely need to be managed better and oriented toward your environment. In the first part of your life, this mental energy may have some negative effects and drive you into self-destructive behavior. You will have to make an effort to understand certain obsessions, which are unconscious and therefore all the more powerful and irresistible, if you want to overcome the feelings of failure they cause. A complete psychological metamorphosis may occur when you make up your mind to accept and understand the matters you have rejected and repressed.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to your life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy your life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life.

You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.