If you want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These might be your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, and your comfort with a constant state of worry.

Although you are friendly and outgoing and commit yourself to friendships and partnerships, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Abdulkerim Durmaz sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.