If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution:- your defensive attitudes- your fear of being dispossessed- your ambivalence- your radicalism- your over-reliance on your instincts and feelings.

You sometimes struggle to find a balance between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are committed to both ideas, but sometimes it feels like you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you simply sacrifice your domestic life, you are only fooling yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Abi-Maria Gomes has the ability to detach herself from her emotions to analyze and observe them, but this tendency sometimes prevents her from truly engaging herself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why she subjects all her feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why she might falter, hesitate, contradict herself and seem to say both yes and no when she has an opportunity to commit herself emotionally. She should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to her childhood. She must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach her to understand her own reactions and affects better.