If you want to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be your coolness and distance, your lack of consideration for others, your rigidity, your need for total control, and your fear of your emotions.

AJ Pierzynski has difficulty balancing relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, he should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what kind of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.