If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be preventing you from living the life you want:- your preference for illusion- your hypersensitivity- your emotionalism- your lack of self-confidence-your guilt

You sometimes struggle with the conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are committed to both ideas and have difficulty reconciling their demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only fooling yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Alan Haynes sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.

Alan Haynes’ emotions are fluctuating and unstable. Although he has the ability to detach himself from his emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevents him from truly engaging himself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why he subject all his feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why he might falter, hesitate, contradict himself and seem to say both yes and no when he has an opportunity to commit himself emotionally. He should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to his childhood. He must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach him to understand his own reactions and affects better.

Alan Haynes may find himself feeling frustration and insecurity in his relations with other people, or in matters related to communication, until he finds the right direction for himself. He is fairly skeptical and sometimes overly rational, so he does not always trust in the power of his own imagination and emotions, and he is even more wary of other people’s imagination and emotions. His approach is sometimes hindered by pessimism, and people may find him cynical. He would do well to learn to be more generous with himself in his intimate and social relationships instead of immediately snuffing out other people’s spontaneous expressions of hope and goodwill.

Alan Haynes has fairly single-minded and obstinate desires. He displays a remarkable persistence in the pursuit of his commitments, despite any obstacles he may encounter. He is highly charged with sensuality and sexuality, and they have a great deal of influence on his behavior. His expression in this area is sometimes fraught with problems because he has a tendency to try too hard to control his lustful urges. However, an emotional crisis intervening at around age 40 may bring about a total redefinition of his relationship to his sexuality.

As we suggested earlier, Alan Haynes is endowed with great sensitivity and has profound aspirations, especially romantic ones. Nevertheless, his spirit is sometimes too delicate for him to have armored and structured himself for the constraints of life out there in the real world. Moreover, he sees little point in devoting himself to fulfilling the demands of practical reality, which strike him as rather futile and empty. His escapes into his fantasy world give him the illusion of a much greater reward. He tends to gloss over his vision of other people, and when they reveal their imperfections and incompetence, he feels guilty for them and suffers from his own vulnerability and illusions. He would do well to try to be more selective about the people he associates with; when he is moving in a dream world, he attracts the kind of dishonest people who are likely to take advantage of him.