If you want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These might be your preference for illusion, your hypersensitivity, your emotionalism, your lack of self-confidence, or your guilt.

Alan Resnikoff sometimes experiences a conflict between his desire for social and professional success and his need for a stable, secure domestic life. He is deeply committed to both ideas and does not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on him. Sometimes it feels as though he will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy him if he neglects his most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to him to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if he merely sacrifices his domestic life, he is only trying to fool himself. He should accept the fact that his domestic life is the true basis and foundation of his development. All his career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Alan Resnikoff sometimes sets unrealistic goals for himself and tends to be impractical. These tendencies are particularly evident when it comes to his emotional relationships. In the beginning, he will idealize the potential partner, one who will put him on a pedestal, but then he may try to dodge commitment. In other life pursuits, he tends to rush into poorly thought-out activities. If he does not alter these tendencies, life will step in to make him slow down and induce him to organize himself with more patience and forethought.

Alan Resnikoff is fairly independent and individualistic, so it is easy for him to detach himself from prevailing intellectual trends and pursue his activities independently. He may tend to be too self-focused. However, he is likely to encounter situations in life which require that he adapt to new and unfamiliar circumstances by changing his system of values. If he clings to a narrow vision of the truth, certain relationship experiences may shatter it, leaving him with a feeling of loss and disorientation until he recovers. The best cure would be putting his determination into changing his life and concentrating on new goals.