If Alan Taylor wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. These might be his shallowness, lack of sincerity, indifference, frivolity, and fear of commitment.

Alan Taylor may experience discord in relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, he should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If he succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Alan Taylor sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.

Alan Taylor’s mind tends to soar from one ideal or theory to the next without ever adopting any one approach. Because he rarely takes the trouble to steady his vision and deepen it, or to stick to an activity after it becomes tiresome, he is often disappointed. His lack of constancy and his inability to commit himself to any long-term effort, as well as his tendency to evade responsibility, could be obstacles to his life in the real world.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life.

You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.