If you want to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These might be your preference for illusion, your hypersensitivity, your emotionalism, your lack of self-confidence, and your guilt.

You sometimes feel a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Alejandro Balde may find himself feeling frustration and insecurity in his relations with other people, or in matters related to communication, until he finds the right direction for himself. Alejandro Balde is fairly skeptical and sometimes overly rational, so he does not always trust in the power of his own imagination and emotions, and he is even more wary of other people’s imagination and emotions. Alejandro Balde’s approach is sometimes hindered by pessimism, and people may find him cynical. Alejandro Balde would do well to learn to be more generous with himself in his intimate and social relationships instead of immediately snuffing out other people’s spontaneous expressions of hope and goodwill.

Alejandro Balde has significant intellectual potential which may merely need to be managed better and oriented toward his environment. In the first part of his life, this mental energy may have some negative effects and drive him into self-destructive behavior. He will have to make an effort to understand certain obsessions, which are unconscious and therefore all the more powerful and irresistible, if he wants to overcome the feelings of failure they cause. A complete psychological metamorphosis may occur when he makes up his mind to accept and understand the matters he has rejected and repressed.

Alejandro Balde sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.

Alejandro Balde has the ability to detach himself from his emotions to analyze and observe them, which sometimes prevents him from truly engaging himself in emotional terms. He subjects all his feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. This is the reason why he might falter, hesitate, contradict himself, and seem to say both yes and no when he has an opportunity to commit himself emotionally. He should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to his childhood. He must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach him to understand his own reactions and affects better.

Alejandro Balde is curious but sometimes undiscriminating. He is high-strung and fluctuating; he sometimes has trouble disciplining his mind. Because he finds change and variety especially stimulating and pleasant, he may be a bit fickle as a partner in a relationship or friendship. Many of his conflicts with other people are due to his instability and lack of self-control. If he succeeds in mastering and channeling his considerable mental energy, he could be extremely effective in such fields as communications and teaching.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.