If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your growth:-your perfectionism- your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae- your over intellectualization- your comfort with a constant state of worry

You sometimes feel a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and often find it difficult to reconcile their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only pretending to be satisfied. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Andy Lange often sets unrealistic goals for himself and is impractical with his emotional relationships. These tendencies are particularly evident when it comes to his idealized potential partner, who he expects to put him on a pedestal, but then he may try to dodge commitment. In other life pursuits, he tends to rush into poorly thought-out activities. If he does not alter these tendencies, life will step in to make him slow down and induce him to organize himself with more patience and forethought.