If you are really looking to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be hindering your growth and preventing your evolution. These could be your preference for illusion, your hypersensitivity, your emotionalism, your lack of self-confidence, and your guilt.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must learn to look at all the good things in your life and all the things you hope to accomplish. This will help you to overcome your childhood fears, which have prevented you from enjoying life. Sometimes your childhood fears are irrational, and they have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the good things in life because of the negative voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve them. This side of you can undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.