If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution.

Ara Abrahamian may find discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Ara Abrahamian sometimes sets unrealistically high goals for herself and is impractical in her emotional relationships. This tendency is particularly evident when it comes to her potential partners, who she idealizes at the beginning but then may try to dodge commitment. In other life pursuits, she tends to rush into poorly thought-out activities. If she does not alter these tendencies, life will step in to make her slow down and induce her to organize herself with more patience and forethought.

Ara Abrahamian thinks quickly and makes decisions quickly. This can cause problems with communications androuse opposition from others. Her mind is often too busy with the immediate future to take the time for careful analysis and reflection. She would do well to slow down and organize herself before she speaks. However, her quick thinking can be useful in quickly changing work situations.

Ara Abrahamian obeys a drive to live and accomplish her purpose in an intense and immediate way. Whenever she encounters direct resistance, she might find herself beset by frustration. If the resistance lasts, she may eventually be overwhelmed by anxiety, nervous tension, and discouragement. In addition, she has the ability to focus her strength and leadership potential on problems which require immediate solutions. Her lack of patience and persistence may spur problems.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.