If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be your shallowness, lack of sincerity, indifference, frivolity or fear of commitment.

You often struggle with the conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and don’t always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels like you will never be able to find a balance. However, no promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Ashneer Grover has a variety of talents, but it can be difficult for her to concentrate on a single thing. She is ruled by her nervousness and her suggestibility, and this can sometimes make it difficult for her to use her adaptive abilities to their full potential. She also doesn’t always take the time to formulate the solutions to her problems, and this can drain her nervous system of energy. If she experiences respiratory problems, like asthma, it will be a signal that the need to change is urgent.

Although I have the ability to detach myself from my emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevents me from truly engaging myself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why I subject all my feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why I might falter, hesitate, contradict myself and seem to say both yes and no when I have an opportunity to commit myself emotionally. I should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to my childhood. I must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach me to understand my own reactions and affects better.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in your life and all the changes you hope to make to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.