If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of your weaknesses and how they’re holding you back. These could be things like your fear of commitment, your lack of independence, or your eccentricity. Once you’re aware of these things, you can start working on overcoming them.

Aubrey O’Day accepts the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.