Barbara Niven seeks others in order to structure herself. She intuitively senses this need and seeks a balance between her individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return, although it sometimes eludes her. Marriage and friendship could be realms to which she is especially devoted, but they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.
You have a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding your identity. Perhaps your father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during your childhood, which deprived you of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because you might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, you were forced to protect yourself against negative influences and find your own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to you as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with your evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber your mind or inhibit your developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for you to assert yourself, and you tend to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed at yourself rather than others, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself severely, and sometimes punishes yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Barbara Niven enjoys sharing and has a constant need for contact with other people. She tends to be free and uninhibited in her relations with other people, rarely allowing herself to be influenced by convention or prevailing opinion; she associates with whomever she pleases. This attitude makes her life refreshing and exciting, and she is never bored. In career terms, Barbara Niven is quite gifted for any field related to communication, where her intellectual singularity and lively wit would make her an amazing hit. She would also be likely to succeed in any activity where the work required a multidisciplinary approach: teaching, advertising, politics, etc.
A charismatic speaker and compulsive charmer, Barbara Niven has a powerful personal magnetism which may sometimes make her seem arrogant or smug. She cares a great deal about her reputation and will try hard to be admired and appreciated by the people around her. Fond of social events and parties, Barbara enjoys being the host, to entertain and charm a captive audience of guests. Indeed, she has special dramatic and artistic talents of the caliber necessary for success in film, theater, fashion, or art in general. She enjoys displaying her generosity, but she also displays a short temper at times; she is easily offended. Her partner will have to be a brilliant person, strong and sure of themselves, devoted to her and capable of enhancing her reputation.
Barbara Niven has a sensitive and affectionate nature. She seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. Her relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and she has a natural sense of tact and social grace.
Barbara Niven has a sensitive nature. Although she may sometimes have trouble controlling her emotional reactions, they are nevertheless a source of vital energy for a constructive passion and may make an extremely positive contribution to her career. In relations with other people, she is quite friendly; she willingly reaches out to people and knows how to listen to their desires and their problems.
Barbara Niven is an expansive, affable, and communicative associate. Indeed, some people find her generous almost to a fault! She gives of herself and her resources unstintingly. Paradoxically, there are times when she is self-focused. She reacts instinctively, without taking the trouble to analyze a given situation, and is prone to misjudge. As a result, her everyday life may be riddled with a whole variety of practical problems. Indeed, she senses a conflict between her social life and her family and will sometimes find it hard to fulfill herself in both spheres at the same time. Her attitude toward her private life may inhibit her ambitions for social or career expansion; at worst, society (the law) may impinge on her private life. She should be careful not to project her personal problems onto her partner. If, instead, she analyzes the problem together, she could find opportunities to resolve it together.
Barbara Niven feels frustrated in her relationships because they don’t satisfy her sexually. She often feels guilty because she is driven by her instincts to seek gratification for her heart and soul as well. She is a very excessive and troubled partner, who often re-evaluates the connection between herself and her partners.
Barbara Niven’s personality is dominated by love and affectivity. She is subject to love at first sight, and her gallant heart sometimes leaps forth impulsively; her sensitivity is lively and powerful. Amorous rivalries and conquests may be a recurring theme throughout her life.
Barbara Niven’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. She enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with her gaze riveted on the future, Barbara is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Barbara Niven, although hoping to play an important role in society and in her life, in her relationships is liable to be fooled by appearances. Due to her pride, she is prone to be fooled by appearances. As a result, her marriage may be disappointing or be made up of uncertainties and betrayals – unless she marries a passive person she can dominate.
Barbara Niven is a straightforward type who expresses her desires directly. She sometimes confuses her desires with her needs. Much of the time, Barbara does not even try to understand the other and wants it all, right away. When she is in love and a resistance or obstacle arises, Barbara struggles with anger. Barbara also tends to be attracted to people with strong personalities, which could set the stage for conflict.
Barbara Niven has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of Barbara Niven’s main purposes in life. Barbara Niven’s personal charm and magnetism give her nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of Barbara Niven’s well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of her desires. Due to Barbara Niven’s impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, Barbara Niven’s approach to members of the other sex may sometimes lack delicacy.
Barbara Niven, you are hypersensitive and tend to relive the anxieties, apprehensions, and romantic absolutes of your first love relationships, which occurred around the ages of 13-14 years or 20-21 years. You are exquisitely sensitive, but almost completely barricaded behind a layer of aloofness. You will not settle for anything less than eternal commitment, total harmony, and absolute loyalty. You are sometimes presumed to be cold, even by those close to her. You usually hide your emotional reactions or do not even allow them to reach the level of your consciousness, in an effort to protect your sensitivity, which you see as your weak point. You are fairly vulnerable, even in the intimacy of a stable and established relationship. Usually, you will disguise your strong feelings as a kind of possessiveness or even jealousy. Certain misfortunes may arouse a negative emotional state inside you, and you feel unworthy of the love which is lavished on you. This psychological prohibition which rules over all of your desires and affects should loosen with the passage of time; likewise, your fear of approaching the other will diminish. As a result, the second part of your romantic life will be more rewarding. In any case, if you want to experience a harmonious love relationship and gratify yourself emotionally, the defense mechanisms you have elaborated to make yourself inaccessible to others will have to be dismantled.
Barbara Niven,
You are a passionate and ardent person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.
Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
From the outside, Barbara Niven seems detached and aloof, but on the inside she is an extremely complex individual, full of contradictions. Because she sometimes feels vulnerable emotionally, she tries to control not only her own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of her partners. She aspires to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning herself and yielding to the other terrifies her. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because she is guarded and somewhat secretive, she tends to be suspicious and is especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although she is fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, she will not express her feelings unless she is subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of her emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, she is likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.
Barbara Niven has a very rational mind and a modest intellect, which is usually subject to the rule of her orderly imagination. Although she is likely to have flashes of intuition which may prove to be correct, her thought processes are sometimes clean and organized. Her mind, which is oriented in many different directions at the same time, is ruled by her emotions and feelings. In tune with psychic and parapsychic phenomena, her thinking requires only the adjunct of structure to rise from the level of a blurry, uncertain, undifferentiated mass to that of a really significant vision with a grip on the real world.
Barbara Niven tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.
In the formative years of childhood and adolescence, Barbara Niven may have undergone a conflicting situation which prevented her from developing her intellectual and imaginative faculties in a harmonious way. It may be somewhat difficult for her to integrate new ideas and concepts or to give her thought structure and coherence. She has a distaste for study, which might require a great deal of effort for her. She could harbor feelings of insecurity that are so acute that they may undermine her will and therefore her ability to compete. However, if she overcame these emotions, she would see that she has plenty of marketable skills and that many satisfactory solutions to her feelings of ineptitude and inadequacy are within her reach. Because this psychological complex may be related to childhood or adolescent opposition to parental or academic authority, she may not readily accept people who represent law enforcement agencies or power as an adult. She may display some hostility or vindictiveness toward them as a matter of principle. She should sometimes be careful of what she says.
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