If Ben Baller wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. His excessive independence, his fear of commitment, his eccentricity, his instability, and his fear of intimacy may be holding him back.

Ben Baller often experiences discord in relationships. Although he is friendly and outgoing, he often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To overcome this problem, Ben should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If Ben succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what kind of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.