Ben Baller searches for stability in life; he wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.

Ben Baller has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding his identity. Perhaps his father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during his childhood, which deprived him of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because he might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, Ben Baller was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to Ben Baller as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber Ben Baller’s mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for Ben Baller to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, Ben Baller sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, Ben Baller should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.

Ben Baller is a very strong-willed individual who is mindful of going about his purposes with maximum efficiency. When relating to other people, he sometimes has trouble expressing his emotions, but he does have a lively sensitivity and is capable of lasting passion. As he grows older, Ben is quite likely to come into his own and acquire great intellectual and spiritual wisdom. His honesty, integrity, and sense of duty will win him recognition and appreciation. Passing time will be a very important factor in his destiny, and his greatest accomplishments will guarantee him stability and prosperity. Although Ben is not especially enterprising, he will move into a high career position as soon as he feels sure of his abilities.

Ben Baller, you have a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but your energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish your multitude of dreams. You tend to live in osmosis with your environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on you. Usually, you understand phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so you are not in the habit of disciplining or shaping your thought processes. Like your thoughts, your personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, you may have some trouble asserting your individuality and making some personal contribution to society through your career. Your tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like your refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for you.

Ben Baller generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. He tends to give the best of himself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. His ability to concentrate and his gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are his chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in his life.

Ben Baller is winning and attractive. He has an appetite for intense emotional experiences, especially in terms of his relationships. Enjoying the power of his personal appeal, he easily controls his emotions and only rarely reveals the true depth of his feelings. Because his instincts take precedence over his sensitivity, he is capable of becoming jealous, possessive, and even rather harsh, without meaning to. More of a flirt than a voluptuary, he is attentive to desire. As a result, his love life will sometimes be casual and complicated.

Ben Baller is optimistic and happy to be alive. He is cheerful, expansive, and pleasant to have as an associate. He is extremely generous (sometimes to a fault!) and gives of himself and his belongings unstintingly. This positive psychological outlook is the result of a happy childhood and especially an extremely beneficial maternal influence in infancy. He is quite likely to be a professional success; his vision of the world is perfectly adapted to prevailing opinion, and his urges and desires for personal expansion usually elicit a positive reaction from society. By old age, his good reputation and prominence may have earned him fame.

Ben Baller is afraid to love. The world of his feelings is characterized by a certain chill and restraint. But he is not unfeeling; on the contrary, his sensitivity is so delicate that he is careful to protect it. His determination to maintain control of his feelings and force his emotions to obey the laws of reason may stand in the way of intimacy and joy.

Ben Baller was born with an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, he is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.

Ben Baller, half angel, half demon, is attracted to troubled and complicated individuals. His taste for independence and his need for unconventional personal development are betrayed by the power and compulsion of his instincts. As a result, he falls in love when his least expects it, with the type of person he is usually least attracted to… or who is unavailable. He is unlikely to institutionalize his commitments with marriage.

Ben Baller thinks that sensible and level-headed people are boring. He dreams of finding a devoted admirer who will carry him off, far from home and who, most of all, will cure his latent emotional depression. But real life is more mundane and he may end up with a partner who won’t share the burden of practical constraints and responsibilities and chases after adventure. Maturity will help him to make a second relationship a happier one.

Ben Baller may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive him to seek pleasure. His need for romantic fulfillment may compel him to marry, because he also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that he had indeed achieved success. However, privately, he might be less committed to certain obligations and duties.

You are an ardent and amorous person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.

Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.

Ben Baller is a flexible individual with progressive, inventive, and sometimes utopian ideas. He always strives to be in the vanguard, creating a better world for the future.

Ben Baller tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. His thoughts are usually structured, and his reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.

Ben Baller has a great deal of intuition but sometimes has problems organizing his thought processes and making an intellectual commitment. The concepts of boundary and structure are inimical to his mind, which is open and all-encompassing, premonitory, and web-like. His thoughts may be verbally indeterminate, vague, and ill defined. He tends to understand or sense things globally, without always noticing their component parts. Usually, he can’t see the trees for the forest. In daily life, although his perceptions are lively and subtle, he may display a kind of absent-mindedness, out of a fear of annoying people with his shrewdness or of fighting to assert himself. His imagination sometimes escapes from the confines of logic, cringing from a confrontation with reality. This unwillingness to face the real world may cause relationship or career challenges.