If you’re serious about becoming a better person, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your growth: your defensive attitudes, your fear of being dispossessed, your ambivalence, your radicalism, and your over-reliance on your instincts.

Benjamin Wadsworth often finds a conflict between his desire for social and professional success and his need for a stable, secure domestic life. He is deeply committed to both ideas and often succeeds in reconciling their schedules and demands on him. Sometimes it feels as though he will never be able to find a balance, but no job promotion will really satisfy him if he has neglected his most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to him to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if he merely sacrifices his domestic life, he is only trying to fool himself. He should accept the fact that his domestic life is the true basis and foundation of his development. All his career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Benjamin Wadsworth is fairly independent and individualistic, so it is easy for him to detach himself from prevailing intellectual trends and pursue his activities independently. He may tend to be too self-focused. However, he is likely to encounter situations in life which require that he adapt to new and unfamiliar circumstances by changing his system of values. If he clings to a narrow vision of the truth, certain relationship experiences may shatter it, leaving him with a feeling of loss and disorientation until he recovers. The best cure would be putting his determination into changing his life and concentrating on new goals.