Bern Nadette Stanis tries to restrain and control her instincts, but they are difficult to control. She has a fairly ascetic lifestyle because she denies the vital importance of the most archaic and darkest forces within her. If she hopes for a more harmonious development, she will do well to realize that instincts can be tamed; they do not react positively to being trampled.

Bern Nadette Stanis’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling her psyche. Because her sensitivity is in conflict with her determination, her attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, she has the feeling she has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging her yearnings and fulfilling her ambitions. Her unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of her conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage her plans. In her relationships, the images she builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy her. She could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.

Bern Nadette Stanis has great strength of character. Her courage and endurance enable her to accomplish even extremely arduous tasks. Although she sometimes behaves impulsively, she generally knows how to plan out an effective strategy, and, as a result, she reaches her goals without meeting any major obstacles. Her forcefulness gives her certain leadership skills, which she may implement to creative and constructive ends.

Bern Nadette Stanis generally tends to be motivated by activities which apply to social needs. She tends to give the best of herself in difficult situations which require crucial choices. Her ability to concentrate and her gift for solving problems by deductive reasoning are her chief resources in crisis situations or at turning points in her life.

Bern Nadette Stanis is a sensitive and kind-hearted person who is deeply human. She was raised by a mother or a mother-figure who had a strong influence on her psyche, and her childhood was a important time in her life. Bern Nadette Stanis still identifies with vivid childhood memories; they are the basis for her reveries, for her extreme sensitivity, and for habits which she may be slow to break. However, she will thrive in the shelter of a family setting, soothed by the presence of a spouse and children. Bern Nadette Stanis is fond of security and routine; being somewhat impressionable and anxious, she may have trouble adjusting to situations which are unfamiliar.

Bern Nadette Stanis has a sensitive personality. She may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. She is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in her behavior may be explained by emotional problems she may have experienced in infancy: her mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.

You are emotional and tend to react suddenly and excessively as soon as your sensitivity is touched. Although you feel that your independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency are fundamental values, you are sometimes frustrated by your need to rely on your family or friends. Moreover, you do not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as your own. Likewise, you are sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if you feared that it would doom you to eternal dependency. Your ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship you had with your mother or a mother figure. Although you were dependent on them, they may have rejected you. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which your sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are liable to form. To ward off your feelings of dependency, you tend to become destructive. Based on denial, your reactions are sometimes fierce, impulsive, and excessive, erratic, or contradictory.

Bern Nadette Stanis had trouble distinguishing dreams from reality. Although her bubbling imagination provided an abundant source of inspiration for creative or spiritual evolution, it tended to be less helpful and positive in matters that concerned her self-assertion as responsible and self-sufficient. In a relationship, she was extremely romantic and did not always see others the way they really were.

Bern Nadette Stanis experiences love in a different way than her family, social class, or religion taught her. She is determined to experiment with a new style and explore her idealistic aspirations. Her aspirations encourage her to cast off conventional romantic practices and customs and embark on new adventures.

Bern Nadette Stanis was born with an emotional function that expresses itself in a direct and fairly impulsive way. She enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with her gaze riveted on the future, Bern Nadette Stanis is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.

Bern Nadette Stanis is sensitive and vulnerable, easily discouraged in love. It will take her a long time to detach herself from her family, and she will be defenseless by herself. Her constant need to be reassured limits the scope of her relationships. She moves within a narrow circle. A romantic setback could traumatize her. As a result, the one she commits to is primordial.

Bern Nadette Stanis observes that as your freedom and independence are all-important to you, your inner balance is disturbed as soon as your emotions are involved and the time comes to make a commitment. This ambivalent attitude is responsible for the various crises that rocked your romantic relationships in your youth. Maturity and experience should help you to overcome this phobia, allowing you to enjoy an independent social life while at the same time fulfilling your need to love and be loved in the sanctuary of your home.

You are characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive you to seek pleasure. Your need for romantic fulfillment may compel you to marry, because you also seek the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that you had indeed achieved success. However, privately, you might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, you might deny the commitments that your optimism and expansiveness made you rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting your romantic nature against the prerogatives of your career.

You are an ardent and amorous person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.

Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.

Bern Nadette Stanis, you are an extremely complex individual, full of contradictions. Because you sometimes feel vulnerable emotionally, you try to control not only your own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of your partners. You aspire to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning yourself and yielding to the other terrifies you. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because you are guarded and somewhat secretive, you tend to be suspicious and are especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although you are fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, you will not express your feelings unless you are subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of your emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, you are likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.

Bern Nadette Stanis likes to think outside the box and ponder big questions. She’s attracted to the vastness of space and the complexities of law and philosophy. However, learning new languages or travelling to far-off places hold a certain appeal for her.

Bern Nadette Stanis expresses her thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. She is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, she looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.

Bern Nadette Stanis
Your behavior is usually kind and benevolent. You exert a certain charm, know how to speak persuasively and convincingly, and are adept at smoothing the asperities of what you have to say when it is necessary. This aspect of your personality is a great advantage to you socially; however, in situations where you must either compete or deal with direct conflict and hostility, you may be somewhat at a loss for how to behave. You have an undeniable gift for oratory which could be applied to a communications-related occupation or to artistic expression (as a stage or screen actor). Writing and dance, two other arts which associate expression and movement, might also be fields in which you would excel.