If you want to improve your life, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, or your comfort with a constant state of worry.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This will help you to break the cycle of negative thinking and behavior that has held you back in the past. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution, but you can overcome them by freeing yourself from the fears that are preventing you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.