If you want to improve yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could be things like your perfectionism, your tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, your over intellectualization, or your comfort with a constant state of worry.

BK THE RULA often struggles to find a balance between her desire for social and professional success and her need for a stable, secure domestic life. Sometimes it feels as though she will never be able to find a balance, but no job promotion will really satisfy her if she neglects her most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to her to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if she merely sacrifices her domestic life, she is only trying to fool herself. She should accept the fact that her domestic life is the true basis and foundation of her development, and all her career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

BK THE RULA’s emotions are fluctuating and unstable. Although he has the ability to detach himself from his emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevents him from truly engaging himself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why he subjects all his feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why he might falter, hesitate, contradict himself and seem to say both yes and no when he has an opportunity to commit himself emotionally. He should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to his childhood. He must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach him to understand his own reactions and affects better.

BK THE RULA’s personality is ruled by its mind, which uses its energy to conceive and create on the abstract plane. It is much more of a idealist than a pragmatist and does not become passionately engaged in human relationships, preferring a variety of casual contacts which demand little of it in return. As a result, it is sometimes difficult for it to remain in close emotional rapport with another person without feeling hemmed in and stifled. With its peers, its charm makes it popular, and it attracts all sorts of helpful friendships. Due to the ease with which it moves in society and its eloquence, it has undeniable talents for communications and teaching.