Bob Menery is searching for stability. He wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He should become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Bob Menery has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding his identity. Perhaps his father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during his childhood, which deprived him of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because Bob lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, he was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to him as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber his mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for him to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, he sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, Bob should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Bob Menery is sober and rather reserved and may even strike people as harsh and austere at times. Perhaps he was raised in an atmosphere of rigor and sobriety, and, as a result, grew up very fast. He has acquired a spirit of self-sufficiency, tend to be rather uncompromising, and have a touchy sense of his personal dignity and worth. It is almost as though he was fighting an inner battle with his father or a father figure. The psychological models he received from his father or a father figure as a result of his interaction and his own interaction with authority may not have played a major role in shaping his relationships with the outer world and society. He may thus have been forced to compensate for this with individual determination. As a result, although he is skillful, meticulous, conscientious, and efficient, a lack of self-confidence and personal assurance sometimes makes him timid and hesitant. He sometimes feels as though he is only masquerading as a respectable, sober adult. He tends to be far too critical of himself and rarely feel satisfied that he is living up to his ideal. These unnecessary guilt feelings may lead him to turn down the prominent career positions for which he is fully qualified. He is aware that early success is often short-lived and fragile and that time rewards those who know how to be patient and persistent, like him.
Bob Menery is an ardent free thinker and individualist who is convinced that his most precious basic values are freedom and independence. He has thrown off what he perceives as the burden of the convention and customs of his social class and adopted an innovative lifestyle. His passionate convictions, bordering on proselytism, sometimes trouble his relationships, as he may be an uncompromising partner. He would do well to learn to recognize his own limitations and accept the responsibilities he has to other people, or he is liable to find himself continually embroiled in conflicting relationships. The roots of his somewhat extreme behavior probably lie in his relationship with his father or his teachers in childhood and adolescence. For one reason or another, he may have rejected the paternal image or refused to identify with his father, in the same way as he now refuses to adopt any values related to convention, tradition, or widespread usage. In every important life decision he makes as an adult, he is forced to rely on himself to elaborate the appropriate behavior, and the limits he must impose on his desires in relation to reality and the law.
Physical and mental freedom are vital to Bob Menery. His youth and home may have been of the rootless, wandering type, which could have given him a taste for movement and independence. He needs to be aware that his life has a purpose and hunt for it in various belief systems, both traditional and new age. In fact, he has an unmistakable gift for philosophy. The faraway appeals to him, and travel is likely to be an important aspect of his life.
Bob Menery maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Bob Menery has a sensual and affectionate nature which is sensitive to physical attraction. This type of sensitivity, combined with his productive urges, may be expressed in an artistic form. As for his feelings, they are usually slow to take root. But once he is conquered by love, he forms a deep and lasting bond. Although he is loyal, he may also display a tendency to be somewhat possessive.
Bob Menery’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, he is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Bob Menery is constantly uncertain about his feelings. Nothing ever seems to meet with his high emotional aspirations, and when he thinks he has finally found his ideal match, usually it is because his aspirations have changed. As a result, there are likely to be several commitments or marriages.
Bob Menery is easily aroused by beauty and perfection, so he is always seeking sensual thrills. He could easily thrive on a life of total pleasure, neglecting more serious work. But his marriage will introduce some stability; his spouse will bring warmth and (perhaps) some material assets into his home. His children, if he chooses to have them, will quickly become extremely important to him; they may have a tendency to be able to make him do whatever they please.
Bob Menery’s intellect, which is simultaneously subjective and sensitive, acute and intuitive, always practical and deeply rooted in human experience, predisposes him to a people-oriented activity. With his memory and imagination combined with his shrewdness, he would be a gifted project manager, businesswoman, or scholar of history or literature.
Bob Menery tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. His thoughts are usually structured, and his reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.
Bob Menery has a lively and agile spirit. He is curious and open-minded, approaching life experiences without either dogmatism or prejudice. As a result, he tends to have an opinion on every subject, but he does not always have the patience or perspective necessary to examine a subject and gain in-depth knowledge of it. He enjoys manipulating expressions and concepts and amuses himself with witty remarks, satire, and controversy. If he learned to control his flow of words better and elaborate his thoughts more, he might make a talented communicator. Because he is often too hasty to formulate and construct the arguments which would back up and inform his ideas, he is sometimes misunderstood. He is often blind to the rashness of his judgments and convinced they are well-founded and objective, which sometimes irritates the people around him. If he were to succeed in disciplining his mind somewhat, he would have innumerable opportunities to apply his communications skills to a great career. However, he would do well to be careful of his nerves.
Bob Menery has a great deal of intuition but sometimes has problems organizing his thought processes and making an intellectual commitment. The concepts of boundary and structure are inimical to his mind, which is open and all-encompassing, premonitory, and web-like. His thoughts may be verbally indeterminate, vague, and ill defined. He tends to understand or sense things globally, without always noticing their component parts. Usually, he can’t see the trees for the forest. In daily life, although his perceptions are lively and subtle, he may display a kind of absent-mindedness out of a fear of annoying people with his shrewdness or of fighting to assert himself. His imagination sometimes escapes from the confines of logic, cringing from a confrontation with reality. This unwillingness to face the real world may cause relationship or career challenges.
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