If you want to improve as a person, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses that may be holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could include your need for security, your tendency to escape into fantasy, your hunger for approval, your longing for the past, your fear of the future, and your investment systems.

Bob the Drag Queen sometimes feels a conflict between her desire for social and professional success and her need for a stable, secure domestic life. She is deeply committed to both ideas and does not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on her. Sometimes it feels as though she will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy her if she has neglected her most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to her to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if she merely sacrifices her domestic life, she is only trying to fool herself. She should accept the fact that her domestic life is the true basis and foundation of her development. All her career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.