Brooks McGirr becomes aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution. He begins by becoming aware of the shallowness and lack of sincerity which may be hindering his growth. He then focuses on the indifference and frivolity which are preventing him from being more committed to his goals. Finally, he confronts his fear of commitment and vows to overcome these obstacles in order to reach his full potential.

You sometimes struggle with the tension between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and have difficulty reconciling their demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no promotion will really satisfy you if you neglect your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only fooling yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Brooks McGirr, you may experience discord in relationships. Although you are friendly and outgoing and commit yourself to friendships and partnerships, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Brooks McGirr sometimes finds it difficult to stabilize his life and steer a steady course. He is proud of his intellectual abilities and even tends to overestimate them in a search for recognition and admiration. Yet, at other times, he might seem to scoff at other people’s opinions. At times, he tends to be overwrought and high-strung. He might want to schedule frequent rest periods for himself.

Brooks McGirr is sometimes too impulsive and unrealistic in their efforts to accumulate wealth and social power. Although Brooks engages life with enthusiasm and confidence and would be capable of developing some truly innovative social concepts, they are held back by their somewhat scattered behavior. They tend to spread themselves too thin, juggling so many different activities that they struggle to cross the finish line at times.

Brooks McGirr,

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life.

You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.