Dave Benton needs others in order to structure himself. He intuitively senses this need and seeks a balance between his individual ambitions and need to give to others and be loved and recognized in return, although it sometimes eludes him. Marriage and friendship could be realms to which he is especially devoted, but they may also prove to be a source of conflict and disillusion.
You have a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding your identity. Perhaps your father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during your childhood, which deprived you of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because you might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, you were forced to protect yourself against negative influences and find your own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to you as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with your evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber your mind or inhibit your developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for you to assert yourself, and you tend to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because your authoritarian urges are mainly directed at yourself rather than others, you sometimes feel guilty about your behavior. You judge yourself severely, and sometimes punishes yourself by setting difficult tasks for yourself. Gradually, you should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Dave Benton has a personality and behavior that are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, Dave has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images Dave builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on Dave’s nerves. Dave finds it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Dave Benton is winning and attractive. He has an appetite for intense emotional experiences, especially in terms of his relationships. Enjoying the power of his personal appeal, he easily controls his emotions and only rarely reveals the true depth of his feelings. Because his instincts take precedence over his sensitivity, he is capable of becoming jealous, possessive, and even rather harsh, without meaning to. More of a flirt than a voluptuary, he is attentive to desire. As a result, his love life will sometimes be casual and complicated.
Dave Benton maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs might exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Dave Benton’s sensitivity and emotions are often in conflict with his instincts. This inner discord makes him a fairly complicated relationship partner, and his behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. He is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of his life, and his relationships are most often motivated by his desires. Nevertheless, due to his unconscious inner battle, he does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling his emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of his instincts, passion may overwhelm him and drag him into situations he cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.
Dave Benton is looking for the ideal love and tends to idealize his friends and lovers. A bizarre character, Dave may prefer to dream of his soulmate instead of making love to one; he is more in love with the idea of love than anything else. His idealism may hide a fear of truly committing himself to a relationship; he tries to intellectualize everything. In time, two options will seem clear to him: an amorous friendship based on shared ideas and intellectual exchange, or an open relationship, free of all constraints except mutual respect.
Dave Benton’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Dave Benton is attracted to troubled and complicated individuals. His taste for independence and his need for unconventional personal development are betrayed by the power and compulsion of his instincts. As a result, he falls in love when his least expects it, with the type of person he is usually least attracted to… or who is unavailable. He is unlikely to institutionalize his commitments with marriage.
Dave Benton is idealistic, naive, and romantic. The image of his loved one is bathed in the many sparkling colors of his adolescent dreams. However, the reality of living with someone will reveal some unwelcome facts. His partner may turn out to lack ambition and struggle to partner with him on building a secure home life and taking responsibility for the children, if he has them. Nostalgia for teenage pleasures may turn to depression.
Dave Benton has the fiery, importunate nature of a fervent lover. Indeed, affairs of the heart are one of his main purposes in life. His personal charm and magnetism give him nearly irresistible powers of seduction, and nearly every one of his well-aimed attempts at conquest leads to the fulfillment and satisfaction of his desires. Due to his impulsiveness and impatience to initiate new encounters, his approach to members of the other sex may sometimes lack delicacy.
Dave Benton considered the input from his personal perspective and emotions as static which he tried to tune out to go straight to the essence of knowledge. As a result, regardless of his field of study, he tried to obtain perspective. He will elaborate a thought on the basis of fairly cold, abstract logic, supported by sober, concise, and immaculate reasoning. His choice areas of study could be mathematics, philosophy, legislation, or political science. Ideologies, theories, and any other system of reasoning could serve as “food for thought” for him.
Dave Benton expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.
Dave Benton has a great deal of intuition but sometimes has problems organizing his thought processes and making an intellectual commitment. The concepts of boundary and structure are inimical to his mind, which is open and all-encompassing, premonitory, and web-like. His thoughts may be verbally indeterminate, vague, and ill defined. He tends to understand or sense things globally, without always noticing their component parts. Usually, he can’t see the trees for the forest. In daily life, although his perceptions are lively and subtle, he may display a kind of absent-mindedness out of a fear of annoying people with his shrewdness or of fighting to assert himself. His imagination sometimes escapes from the confines of logic, cringing from a confrontation with reality. This unwillingness to face the real world may cause relationship or career challenges.
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