If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution:
– your dependency on other people
– your uncertainty
– your sentimentalism
– your weakness for comfort

Eminem’s personality is ruled by his mind, which uses his energy to conceive and create on the abstract plane. He is much more of an idealist than a pragmatist and does not become passionately engaged in human relationships, preferring a variety of casual contacts which demand little of him in return. As a result, it is sometimes difficult for him to remain in close emotional rapport with another person without feeling hemmed in and stifled. With his peers, his charm makes him popular, and he attracts all sorts of helpful friendships. Due to the ease with which he moves in society and his eloquence, he has undeniable talents for communications and teaching.

To trust himself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Eminem must do is learn to say no. Once he is capable of saying no to others, he can say yes to life. He must develop his awareness of all the things he loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes he hopes to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support him, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of his personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when he was helpless may be obstacles to his evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent him from daring to confront challenges he would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons he yields to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to him that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of his identity. However, the more often he reinforces this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware he becomes of his true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced his pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for him to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside him that claims he doesn’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of him could undermine his vitality and force him to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, he limits his power to bring about a positive change in himself or his life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free himself, the first step is to free himself from the fears which prevent him from taking full advantage of life. He can succeed if he arranges a relaxed, positive environment for himself, establishes sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which he can practice relaxation exercises.