Flavio Mendoza became aware of his weaknesses and decided to transform himself. He began by becoming more considerate of others, and less rigid. He also began to let go of his need for total control, and to learn to embrace his emotions.

Although you are friendly and outgoing, you often find it difficult to balance your own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To overcome this problem, you should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If you succeed in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship you and your partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

I sometimes sense a conflict between my desire for social and professional success and my need for a stable, secure domestic life. I am deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on me. Sometimes it feels as though I will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy me if I have neglected my most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to me to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if I merely sacrifice my domestic life, I am only trying to fool myself. I should accept the fact that my domestic life is the true basis and foundation of my development. All my career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Flavio Mendoza can be hypersensitive and easily offended, although he frequently changes his opinion and doesn’t hold a grudge. He abhor conflict and is a good listener. His key to self-improvement will be learning to control his impressionability.

Flavio Mendoza tends to lure others to him and gain their love and approval. As a lover, he might be the impetuous type who rushes into a relationship without thinking, making a great show of affection at the outset. He could learn to evaluate the pros and cons of an emotional commitment more carefully if he wants to avoid leaving a trail of broken hearts.