Heather Young became aware of her weaknesses and began to work on improving them. She focused on her perfectionism, her tendency to hyperfocus on minutiae, and her over intellectualization. She also began to cope with a constant state of worry.

Heather Young has always been a person who feels out of phase with the social conventions and belief systems regulating her community or the ethical codes she is supposed to follow. Although, like anyone, she wants to become a productive and valuable member of society, the models of success and achievement she sees around her don’t particularly inspire her for some reason. In order for her to find her own individual way to fit in, she will have to go through a period of long, hard introspection and self-examination, if she has not done so already. This intense introspection will yield a new self-image, a new identity, and a new vision of the world. It will be a turning point in her way of participating in society. Possible opportunities for introspection include a major journey, or advanced studies, etc.

To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing you must do is learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the things you love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes you hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent you from daring to confront challenges you would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons you yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to you that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of your identity. However, the more often you reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware you become of your true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced your pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for you to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside you that claims you don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of you could undermine your vitality and force you to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, you limit your power to bring about a positive change in yourself or your life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free yourself, the first step is to free yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.