If J-Hope really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– his excessive independence
– his fear of commitment
– his eccentricity
– his instability
– his fear of intimacy

J-Hope is rather obstinate, stubborn, and impervious to outside influences. Although J-Hope’s determination is an asset in bringing plans and projects to completion, it may also arouse bitter hostility against J-Hope. To fit in best, J-Hope should consider working on J-Hope’s flexibility and diplomacy.

J-Hope is curious but sometimes undiscriminating. J-Hope is high-strung and fluctuating; J-Hope sometimes has trouble disciplining his mind. Because J-Hope finds change and variety especially stimulating and pleasant, J-Hope may be a bit fickle as a partner in a relationship or friendship. Many of J-Hope’s conflicts with other people are due to J-Hope’s instability and lack of self-control. If J-Hope succeeds in mastering and channeling his considerable mental energy, J-Hope could be extremely effective in such fields as communications and teaching.

J-Hope may find themselves feeling frustration and insecurity in their relations with other people, or in matters related to communication, until they find the right direction for themselves. They are fairly skeptical and sometimes overly rational, so they do not always trust in the power of their own imagination and emotions, and they are even more wary of other people’s imagination and emotions. Their approach is sometimes hindered by pessimism, and people may find them cynical. They would do well to learn to be more generous with themselves in their intimate and social relationships instead of immediately snuffing out other people’s spontaneous expressions of hope and goodwill.

To trust myself better and gain self-assurance, the first thing I must do is learn to say no. Once I am capable of saying no to others, I can say yes to life. I must develop my awareness of all the things I love and feel positive about, as well as all the changes I hope to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support me, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of my personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when I was helpless may be obstacles to my evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent me from daring to confront challenges I would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons I yield to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to me that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of my identity. However, the more often I reinforce this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware I become of my true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced my pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for me to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside me that claims I don’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of me could undermine my vitality and force me to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, I limit my power to bring about a positive change in myself or my life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free myself, the first step is to free myself from the fears which prevent me from taking full advantage of life. I can succeed if I arrange a relaxed, positive environment for myself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which I can practice relaxation exercises.