If Nick Bencivengo really wants to improve and transform himself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding him back and preventing his evolution:
– his continual need for security
– his tendency to escape into fantasy
– his hunger for approval
– his longing for the past
– his fear of the future
– his investment systems

Nick Bencivengo may experience discord in relationships. Although Nick is friendly and outgoing and commits himself to friendships and partnerships, Nick often finds it difficult to balance his own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs.

To understand and overcome this problem, Nick should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If Nick succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship he and his partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Nick has deeply anchored emotional needs. Invariably, he tries to revive these sensations from his personal history, clinging to the security provided by the repetition of a feeling which produced a positive effect in the past. His desire for possession (tangible or emotional) could become a problem, because he may fixate on an object which is negative or bad for him. He will do well to make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious negative conditioning which may be related to his childhood.