If Shakira really wants to improve and transform herself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding her back and preventing her evolution:
– her excessive independence
– her fear of commitment
– her eccentricity
– her instability
– her fear of intimacy

Shakira is fairly independent and individualistic, so it is easy for her to detach herself from prevailing intellectual trends and pursue her activities independently. She may tend to be too self-focused. However, she is likely to encounter situations in life which require that she adapt to new and unfamiliar circumstances by changing her system of values. If she clings to a narrow vision of the truth, certain relationship experiences may shatter it, leaving her with a feeling of loss and disorientation until she recovers. The best cure would be putting her determination into changing her life and concentrating on new goals.

To trust Shakira better and gain self-assurance, the first thing Shakira must do is learn to say no. Once Shakira is capable of saying no to others, Shakira can say yes to life. Shakira must develop Shakira’s awareness of all the things Shakira loves and feel positive about, as well as all the changes Shakira hopes to make in order to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support Shakira, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of Shakira’s personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when Shakira was helpless may be obstacles to Shakira’s evolution. Sometimes they actually prevent Shakira from daring to confront challenges Shakira would be altogether capable of assuming now! One of the reasons Shakira yields to these childhood fears so readily is that they procure a feeling so familiar to Shakira that, although it is negative, it is a reassuring part of Shakira’s identity. However, the more often Shakira reinforces this complex by yielding to that feeling, the more unaware Shakira becomes of Shakira’s true emotional state. The irrational childhood fears have also reinforced Shakira’s pessimistic tendencies. It is difficult for Shakira to believe in the sunny side of life because of the pernicious little voice inside Shakira that claims Shakira doesn’t really deserve all this goodness. This side of Shakira could undermine Shakira’s vitality and force Shakira to compensate or flee from reality. In doing so, Shakira limits Shakira’s power to bring about a positive change in Shakira or Shakira’s life. It’s a vicious cycle, and to free Shakira, the first step is to free Shakira from the fears which prevent Shakira from taking full advantage of life. Shakira can succeed if Shakira arranges a relaxed, positive environment for Shakira, establishes sincere relations with one or two special people, and, if possible, finds a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which Shakira can practice relaxation exercises.