If you really want to improve and transform yourself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding you back and preventing your evolution.
Your coolness and distance may be holding you back. You lack consideration for others. You may be rigid. You need total control. You may be afraid of your emotions.

Shannan Ponton often experiences discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs. To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

You sometimes sense a conflict between your desire for social and professional success and your need for a stable, secure domestic life. You are deeply committed to both ideas and do not always succeed in reconciling their schedules and demands on you. Sometimes it feels as though you will never be able to find a balance. However, no job promotion will really satisfy you if you have neglected your most intimate needs and desires. Although it sometimes seems easier to you to climb the rungs of the career ladder out there in the real world, if you merely sacrifice your domestic life, you are only trying to fool yourself. You should accept the fact that your domestic life is the true basis and foundation of your development. All your career endeavors and success will be even more rewarding if they are supported by a safe, warm personal life.

Shannan Ponton finds conflict in relationships because of her tendency to be self-focused and impulsively take charge. This aggressiveness and lack of cooperation could arouse resentment from those around her. Shannan would do well to meditate on the concepts of authority and individualism to improve her relationships.

Shannan Ponton can be hypersensitive and easily offended, although she frequently changes her opinion and doesn’t hold a grudge. She abhor conflict and is a good listener. Her key to self-improvement will be learning to control her impressionability.

Shannan Ponton tends to lure others to her and gain their love and approval. As a lover, she might be the impetuous type who rushes into a relationship without thinking, making a great show of affection at the outset. She could learn to evaluate the pros and cons of an emotional commitment more carefully if she wants to avoid leaving a trail of broken hearts.