If Winona Ryder really wants to improve and transform herself, the first step is to become aware of the weaknesses which may be holding her back and preventing her evolution:
– her defensive attitudes
– her fear of being dispossessed
– her ambivalence
– her radicalism
– her over-reliance on her instincts

Winona Ryder may experience discord in relationships. Although she is friendly and outgoing and commits herself to friendships and partnerships, she often finds it difficult to balance her own needs, desires, and goals with the objective reality of others and their individual desires and needs.

To understand and overcome this problem, she should accept the idea that every relationship follows more or less the same general scheme: a base of intimacy and an accomplishment or purpose apart from the relationship itself. If she succeeds in defining, through discussion and communication, what sort of intimate relationship she and her partners want to maintain and what accomplishment or purpose they hope to achieve, many conflicts will be avoided.

Winona Ryder’s emotions are fluctuating and unstable. Although she has the ability to detach herself from her emotions to analyze and observe them, this tendency sometimes prevents her from truly engaging herself in emotional terms and may act as a defense against any emotional impact. This is the reason why she subjects all her feelings to an intellectual interpretation rather than yielding to them. It is also the reason why she might falter, hesitate, contradict herself and seem to say both yes and no when she has an opportunity to commit herself emotionally.

She should make a conscious effort to overcome this unconscious conditioning which may be related to her childhood. She must first learn to observe and assimilate other people’s feelings instead of rejecting them. This exercise will teach her to understand her own reactions and affects better.