Just because Virgo is symbolized by the Virgin does not mean Virgo is a prude who doesn’t enjoy sex. Virgo is a sensual sign who loves making love. They’re just highly selective about who they sleep with. You generally won’t usually see Virgo engaging in one-night stands. Virgos know they’re a great lay, but they need a person to prove themselves worthy of their loving in order to get them into bed. But they are worth the wait.
Like in all areas of their lives, Virgo is eager to please in the bedroom. They get off when their lover gets off. Virgo has a praise kink and wants to be told how amazing they are in bed. Virgo has an excellent memory and pays attention to every single detail. If they notice you moan or shutter when they touch you a certain way, they’ll save that knowledge for later. Curious and eager to learn, Virgo jumps at the chance to try new sex positions or kinks. They are very open to experimenting—as long as everyone takes a long shower after.
A Virgo’s true love language is through acts of service. If a Virgo likes you, he or she will let you know by volunteering to help you out whenever possible. Virgos light up when they hear their love interest talk about their problems. Then they can come up with a solution to help them out! Virgo needs to feel useful to feel happy and content.
If a Virgo likes someone, this zodiac sign will remember every little detail about them including their favorite color, movie, and favorite food. Virgos happily help their crush with errands to prove how valuable they can be to their lives. Remembering things is proof that they care. “Can I help you?” is how Virgo says “I love you.”
Some matches cause more problems than others. Here are signs that simply don’t play well with Virgo.
Aries: At first, this couple may be attracted to each other because they are so different. Virgo may be turned on by Aries’ boldness, while Aries will be indulged by Virgo’s mysterious and aloof nature. Virgo’s subtle personality clashes with Aries’ loud one. Virgo is interested in communication, while Aries is all action, which can frustrate Virgo because Aries is so impulsive. Aries is wild, which makes Virgo nervous because you can’t control Aries.
Sagittarius: Oil and vinegar don’t mix and neither do Virgo and Sagittarius. Virgo is a hardworking sign that carefully plans out almost every moment of their lives, and strives for a secure future for themselves. While Sagittarius on the other hand is a free spirit, who recklessly dives headfirst into anything without thinking even five-seconds into the future.
Aquarius: Aquarius are very passionate about their ideas and beliefs, and will think Virgo is cold and unfeeling when they don’t respond with the same level out outward excitement. Virgos have a more difficult time expressing emotion than Aquarius at times. Aquarius doesn’t understand that. Meanwhile, the level-headed Virgo will become annoyed that Aquarius’ head is always in the clouds.
While all zodiac signs matches have the ability to make it work, some romances are just written in the cosmos. Here are the best matches for Virgo.
Taurus: Virgo and Taurus have a very “old married couple” vibe about them. Being of the same element (earth), they share a lot of the same values and personality traits. So, they understand each other better than most. They’re both homebodies, practical, and grounded.
Scorpio: At first glance, no one would think to pair the sexual, seductive Scorpio with the shy, reserved, “Like a Virgin” Virgo. However, its Scorpio’s intense passion that brings Virgo out of their shell. Scorpio’s imagination and visions balance Virgo’s logical and analytical nature. Both are also highly observant.
Capricorn: Power couple alert! When these two earth signs get together, there’s nothing that they can’t achieve—in both business and in pleasure. Both Virgo and Capricorn are diligent, disciplined, and feel they have a higher calling. They each possess a “change the world” vibe that attracts the two in the first place.
In the beginning… When falling in love, Virgos take their time. They are picky and aren’t easily swayed by a pretty face or a few sweet words. Virgos are skeptics when it comes to love, as they are afraid of being hurt.
When things are going well… When a Virgo is in love, they are deeply devoted to their partner, unable to think of anyone else but them. They will drop everything to be at their lover’s beck and call. They want to help them and take care of them. They are interested in building a life with their chosen partner.
When things are on the rocks… Things go wrong in a relationship when Virgo obsesses over the flaws in their romantic partner. The critic, Virgo cannot let a flaw go unnoticed, and will point it out to their partner to try to get them to correct it. This can come off as nagging—especially if their delivery is unkind and blunt.
While Virgos may think that they are “perfectly perfect in every way,” they do have a few things they can improve on.
High Strung: Whoa, boy, Virgo is sure is a worrier. Anything—real or imaginary—can lead them into a state of pure panic. As hypochondriacs, they’ll Google symptoms until they convince themselves that they’re actually sick. Thanks to Mercury as their planetary ruler, Virgos have a lot of nervous energy. And when it’s not channeled properly, it can lead them to spiral into anxiety.
Martyrs: Because this zodiac sign works so hard and is so willing to drop everything for others, Virgos can become self-sacrificing. If Virgo does not receive the proper amount of thanks or praise, they’ll start to feel resentful—even if they volunteered in the first place.
Critical: Because of their perfectionism and their keen eye for details, Virgos are very critical. They see the flaws in everything. Ultimately, this zodiac sign needs to remember that no one is perfect and that their best is good enough.
Know-It-All: Virgos are at their happiest when someone tells them that they were right. “I told you so,” is a common phrase in their vocabulary. It’s not that a Virgo needs to be right all the time—they would argue that it just happens to work out that way. This smart-aleck attitude can get very annoying for anyone talking to Virgo.
Cold: Practical, logical, and painfully shy, Virgo has a reputation of appearing cold and uninterested—as they’re more concerned with data and facts than actual emotions. It’s true that Virgos do not wear their heart on their sleeve and are skeptical of strangers.
Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication. This planet was named after the Roman god of communication and commerce. In astrology, our Mercury placement determines how we express ourselves and interpret information.
We can see Mercury’s influence on Virgo when we focus on their analytical nature. Their mind is as sharp as a blade—and just as quick! Virgos are born problem-solvers, using their precision and cool logic to do so. People flock to Virgos because they give the best advice, and Virgos love it when people take their advice and it works. There are few things that Virgo enjoys more than being proven right. They enjoy helping others and want to use their communication and reasoning skills to do so.
We also see Mercury’s influence in this zodiac sign’s adaptability. They can easily move through social circles and blend in. Virgos can take in a lot of new information very quickly, understand it, and then communicate it in a way that makes sense for others.
Virgo is ruled by the sixth house, the house of work, health, and routine. In astrology, this house is where we get our attitudes toward self-improvement, service, habits, health, and productivity. Since Virgos are ruled by the sixth house, they take their attitudes toward work and health much more seriously than most.
The sixth house’s work-oriented vibe comes out heavily in Virgo. Like all earth signs, Virgo is a very hard worker. However, they work hard not because they are so ambitious (like Capricorn), nor because they want to gain possessions and money (like Taurus). Instead, Virgos work so hard because they like working. They aim to please and need to feel productive and useful to feel content. They feel lost and without purpose if they are not constantly keeping busy. In fact, Virgos struggle with downtime and find it difficult to relax. They need to keep working.
Many people might find this pairing odd, but there are actually many reasons why Virgo is associated with the Major’s ninth card: the Hermit.
The first is Virgo’s attention to self (and a higher sense of self, at that). Typically, this tarot card depicts a lone figure walking through the darkness while holding a lantern. In his right hand (the side of the subconscious mind), the Hermit holds a lantern. Inside the lantern, there is a six-pointed star (also known as a “pentacle” or the Star of David)—symbolic of connection to spiritual forces. In the Hermit’s left hand (the side of the conscious mind), he holds a staff—which he uses for guidance. Putting these two images together, we can really see Virgo’s attention to one’s self (conscious mind), while also being able to see the greater good of humanity (subconscious mind).
The Hermit has the association of a service-oriented figure, but it approaches “service” as a way to service one’s self. In fact, the card acts as a reminder for Virgo to make sure to take time for one’s self when needed.
Similar to the ruling planet, house, and element, numbers have a direct influence on astrological signs, as well. Each planetary body is linked to a single-digit number. Virgo is ruled by Mercury which, in numerology, is ruled by the number five.
Five is the adventurer of numerology. It represents change, freedom, and exploring the great unknown. At its core, it’s the number of curiosity. With quick wit and a sharp tongue, that’s why this sign can get themselves in and out of trouble. People with a five life path number love to gossip and can easily make friends with their charms and knack for storytelling. Fives have a wide variety of interests and will bounce around from passion to passion—never quite sticking to one thing or one place.
Both this number and Virgo have the same intellect, quick wit, and an insatiable curiosity. They love to get the details on everything, and often look for clues to get to the truth. Virgos, like five people, are also multi-talented, as they both have many different skills or passions.